Reconnecting with Your True Self: Clearing the Lens on Life

In the fast-paced world we live in, it’s easy to lose sight of who we truly are. Between societal expectations, endless to-do lists, and the pressures of success, we often find ourselves disconnected from our authentic selves. But what if we could wipe the slate clean, clear our lenses, and see life from a fresh perspective?

In a recent episode of The Amanda Kaufman Show, guest Kristi Newman shared profound insights on personal growth, coaching, and the lessons we can learn from horses. One of the most powerful takeaways? The importance of reconnecting with our inner child and viewing life with fresh, unfiltered clarity.

The Inner Child: Rediscovering Who You Truly Are

Kristi describes how each of us has a little kid inside—the version of ourselves before the world placed expectations on us. Before the weight of responsibilities, stress, and societal pressures took over, we were naturally curious, excited, and eager to learn.

“That little kid inside of all of us,” Kristi explains, “that’s really who we truly are.”

This concept isn’t just about nostalgia; it’s about rediscovering joy, passion, and authenticity. When we strip away the burdens that have accumulated over time, we can reconnect with what genuinely excites us. Whether it's through working with animals, embracing creativity, or simply allowing ourselves to play again, tapping into our inner child can be a powerful act of self-discovery.

Seeing Clearly: Cleaning the Lenses of Experience

Kristi uses the analogy of a pair of glasses to illustrate how our experiences shape our perception of the world. Over time, our “glasses” become clouded by the challenges, failures, and beliefs we accumulate. We don’t even realize how distorted our vision has become until we take a step back and clean those lenses.

“Connecting back to who you truly are inside is like cleaning your glasses off,” Kristi says. “Now you can see the world in a new light.”

This clarity isn’t just about looking back—it’s about moving forward with a renewed sense of purpose. When we wipe away the noise and self-doubt, we can make decisions based on our true desires rather than fear or societal conditioning.

Slowing Down to Speed Up

A surprising lesson from both horse training and personal growth is the idea that sometimes, we need to slow down in order to speed up. Whether it’s in business, relationships, or personal goals, taking a moment to pause and build a strong foundation allows for greater long-term success.

Kristi explains, “If we slow down and really get clear on the foundational things, we can actually build much quicker.”

In a world that glorifies hustle and constant action, this perspective is refreshing. Rather than rushing blindly toward an outcome, taking intentional, thoughtful steps ensures that we’re moving in the right direction.

Trusting Your Gut & Letting Go of the Outcome

One of the most impactful pieces of advice Kristi shares is the power of trusting your intuition without being attached to the outcome.

“I tell people, whatever your gut is saying to do, do that,” Kristi says. “But don’t hold any weight or feelings on the outcome of that decision.”

So often, we hesitate to take action because we fear making the wrong choice. But what if the outcome isn’t what matters most? What if the real lesson lies in the journey itself? By trusting our instincts and detaching from rigid expectations, we open ourselves up to learning, growth, and unexpected opportunities.

Lessons from the Stable: What Horses Can Teach Us

As a lifelong equestrian coach, Kristi has seen firsthand how working with horses mirrors the lessons we need to learn in life. Horses respond to energy, emotion, and authenticity. If a person approaches them with fear, uncertainty, or tension, the horse will react accordingly.

Similarly, in life, when we operate from a place of doubt and stress, we create resistance in our relationships, careers, and personal growth. But when we align with our true selves and lead with confidence, everything flows more naturally.

“Horses teach us to slow down, to be present, and to build trust,” Kristi shares. “They’re incredible teachers if we’re willing to listen.”

Making the Choice to Show Up Authentically

At the core of this conversation is a simple yet profound truth: You have the power to show up in the world the way you truly want to. But first, you need to clear away the clutter—the outdated beliefs, the societal pressures, the self-doubt. When you do, you gain the clarity to make decisions that align with your values and aspirations.

Kristi beautifully sums it up: “When you connect back to who you truly are, you get clarity on where you want to go, how you want to show up, and what goals you truly want to achieve.”

Final Thoughts: How to Start Seeing Clearly Again

If you feel like your life’s “glasses” have become cloudy, here are a few simple steps to start seeing clearly again:

1. Reconnect with Your Inner Child – Think back to what brought you joy as a child. How can you bring more of that curiosity and excitement into your life today?

2. Slow Down to Speed Up – Instead of rushing to the next milestone, take time to build a solid foundation. Reflection and patience can lead to greater long-term success.

3. Trust Your Gut – Your intuition is guiding you for a reason. Take action without being overly attached to the outcome.

4. Let Go of What’s Not Serving You – Whether it’s societal expectations, outdated beliefs, or fear of failure, releasing what no longer aligns with you can be incredibly freeing.

5. Learn from Nature – Whether through animals, nature, or mindfulness, take inspiration from the world around you. Presence and authenticity are powerful tools for transformation.

By making these shifts, you’ll begin to see life with greater clarity and confidence. So, take a deep breath, clean your lenses, and step forward into the life you were meant to live.

🎧 Want to dive deeper? Listen to the full episode of The Amanda Kaufman Show with Kristi Newman

Chapter List:

00:00 Introduction to Coaching with Horses

03:14 Transformative Power of Horses in Coaching

05:49 Understanding the Newcomer's Perspective

09:00 Connecting with the Inner Child

11:57 The Importance of Clarity and Authenticity

14:36 Navigating Struggles and Intuition

17:38 Developing Excellence and Commitment

20:24 Key Takeaways for Coaches

Full Transcript:

Kristi Newman (00:00)

connecting back to who you truly are inside, it's like you clean your glasses off. And so now you can see the world.

in a new light

Amanda Kaufman (00:27)

Well, hello and welcome back to the Amanda Kaufman show. We are continuing our series on the coaches that don't suck. And I'm so excited to invite my friend Kristy onto the show. Kristy Newman, welcome.

Kristi Newman (00:43)

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. I'm really excited to be here.

Amanda Kaufman (00:46)

Amazing. So just take 30 seconds and let everybody know what your specialty is and what you're working on.

Kristi Newman (00:54)

Yeah, so I train horses and coach people with horses. So I have been coaching for 30 years how to ride and train horses, but also now connecting dots to the lessons that the horses teach us to life, leadership, confidence, building. Yeah, so they're pretty incredible teachers and I connect the dots for people.

Amanda Kaufman (01:13)

That is amazing. So I have to ask what drew you to coaching with horses? Like why do that?

Kristi Newman (01:22)

Well, they're cute. I love horses, so.

Amanda Kaufman (01:25)

I love

that. It's like, that's, if you asked me why I became a parent, I'd be like, well, they're cute.

Kristi Newman (01:30)

Yeah, obviously.

So besides the obvious, I grew up in a very sporty family and so got into the sport of equestrian and I was actually in Tokyo helping to run the Olympics. Yeah, so yeah, which was a whole crazy, amazing experience, tons of learning, personal growth, all those good things. And then...

Amanda Kaufman (01:42)

What? That's nuts.

Kristi Newman (01:52)

I got the opportunity to teach a program through Cops and Kids and another urban youth program, which was taking kids from different inner city kind of programs and bringing them to the farm. That changed my life. Watching the transformation of kids and actually the teachers working with the horses and then, so that kind of shifted not.

not completely shifted sort of my goals with my own sport, but shifted what I did in the business that I have. So I added that in. Actually, we even just started a nonprofit that is now connecting with different organizations to bring kids out to learn from the horses. So they're incredible teachers. And there's just so much that more than just say riding, that horses can teach us. that's, yeah.

Amanda Kaufman (02:29)

amazing.

Kristi Newman (02:39)

That's what happened.

Amanda Kaufman (02:39)

That's

really, really cool. And I don't want to forget. So if people were interested in finding out more about your nonprofit, how would they go about doing that?

Kristi Newman (02:49)

Yeah, so at the moment, we are just getting, we actually started the program, we don't even have a logo yet or a website. Like we are just getting going. It's called Stable NRG and it's nourish, ride and grow. And so right now social media is probably going to be the best way through my Christie Newman, Instagram, Facebook, you know, all the usual socials, LinkedIn. And that's, yeah, that's just being built out. The farm where we run everything is my

Amanda Kaufman (02:59)

Hehehehe

Kristi Newman (03:14)

farm, it's called Silver Fox Equestrian Club, and that's probably an even better spot to find anything to do with horses. any...

Amanda Kaufman (03:20)

Got it,

got it. And just so that the listener knows, like, where roughly in the world are you?

Kristi Newman (03:26)

Yeah, so I'm east of Toronto, just north in Durham region. So, and then we actually have an online club that's global and we teach people all about horses through our digital club that has tons and tons of videos on mindset, but also on like literally how to ride a horse. So we have that as well that you can join for free.

Amanda Kaufman (03:30)

Got it.

That's so cool. And we'll circle back on that at the end. I just know that I've talked personally, maybe it's just my business and what I do. I've talked to so many people who have a farm, they work with horses and they're kind of getting started with the coaching side of things. And this, think you're responsible probably apply to anybody in any niche, but what was something that happened when you were first starting this that maybe surprised you that if you had a chance to tell your past

Hey, watch out for this. Be prepared for this. Like, what would you say as a coach who works with horses?

Kristi Newman (04:25)

This is one that I'm noticing that I'm even now, I have to remind myself is that when you work with horses yourself, like I've been doing it for 36 years working with horses, you take a lot of things for granted and you, yeah, so there's a lot of things that newcomers to the horse world or to these programs with horses,

Amanda Kaufman (04:40)

Interesting.

Kristi Newman (04:47)

You really have to fill in a lot of information for people because they're not used to working with horses or even being around them. So the stuff that we think is like just normal is not normal to anyone else. And so I think just really anytime any I do it I have coaches that work for me as well and we talk about it you really have to piece it down into steps that people can digest because there's so much happening and it's a there's a lot of

excitement and anxiety and fear when you first come to a farm for the first, any environment really, when you go there for the first time. And these horses are like a thousand pounds plus. And so if you've never been around them, they are big. And so immediately you're kind of like, whoa, I have to like go and work with this horse. And so they're just kind of overcome with a lot of things happening. And so you have to just slow down.

and piece things together for people and just not take for granted all the stuff that we do day to day with.

Amanda Kaufman (05:49)

Super appreciate that and it's so funny because like the whole time you were you were talking I was swapping horses for social media marketing, you know because it's the same thing, you know I've been working with coaches for the last several years and I think I Worked through a lot of things to be able to do what I do and I'm not I'm first to tell you I'm not the best in the universe at it I'm just you know, I love using media to be social and that works pretty good for me but

I've been around computers and using software.

and things like that since I was literally three years old. And so it's like easy sometimes for me to take for granted, yeah, you just click here, here and here. Or when you're running into an issue, you know, yeah, you just do blah, blah, blah. So even with the social media side of things, I was intimidated by that. And a lot of people are, because they're like, my God, millions of people could see me. You know, what does that mean? You know, and just like the anxieties about, know, someone could find out.

where I live and then your brain goes somewhere else that's not good not helpful and I think it's and what I was thinking is I'm like gosh that's such a great metaphor for working with a horse because I still remember the first time I encountered a horse did not grow up with them I had that same like what if this guy falls on me why would a horse fall on you like first of all but it's like that's that's our primal brain when we're exposed to something new

Kristi Newman (07:14)

100%, 100%, and I think this makes me think also from a global coaching perspective or anything really, is when we're working with other people and like you're an expert in your field, I'm an expert in my field, I mean, are we actually experts? I don't know, I'm always learning, so, and I'm sure you are too, so.

Amanda Kaufman (07:30)

I know, right? That's why I was like discounting

all, I was like, stop it! I'm like, yeah, but there's so much I could be doing better.

Kristi Newman (07:34)

I know. Always,

always. But I think it's a good reminder that we have to meet people where they are at. Right? And we have to remember what it's like to be new at something for people, especially in your land and in my land. You you really have to step back from where you are from your perspective and step into the perspective of the other people and then see it from there and then connect dots from that point, not from where you are. Right?

Amanda Kaufman (07:44)

Mm-hmm.

Kristi Newman (08:04)

where you are is very different, but then helping people out,

Amanda Kaufman (08:07)

If you don't

mind me asking, how though? How do you unpack what you imagine somebody else is going through? Because we hear that advice a lot, and I think it's really good advice. But if you were to break down to somebody you were mentoring, this is how you know that you're taking things from somebody else's perspective versus just your own.

Kristi Newman (08:33)

Yeah, I love that. Okay, so what I feel like we have to do is, for example, I was teaching yesterday, a new group was coming up for a nonprofit and there's adults and kids and they're both experienced things at the same time, all brand new. And I had a talk with one of the participants and said, feel how you're feeling right now. This is what it's like to learn something new as an adult.

And so I think we all have to step into that. And I think as humans, need to be experiencing new things that kind of step us out of our comfort zone, whatever that looks like. Like it can be anything. And then remember that feeling of newness. And then you can put yourself into the perspective of that new person that's coming to you for advice or coming to you for help. And then you know what that feels like. And so it really doesn't matter what...

you're coaching, it's still that newness of uncertainty.

Amanda Kaufman (09:32)

I had a conversation earlier today with somebody else, another interview on the podcast. And we were talking about, you know, what makes coaches great. And I'm going to ask like another question a little bit later on that. But specifically, the guest was sharing like.

don't get too basically cocky. I think she said it a little bit differently, but she was saying, if you wanna serve people at this highest of levels, you gotta humble yourself. And that's not the same thing as making yourself smaller or not taking credit for where it's due, but it's more to say, don't strut around like you know it all.

You know, and I love that advice so much. Like it's a great reminder. You need like you, you, me, me, everybody you need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations on purpose, uncomfortable. I'll qualify uncomfortable growing situations on purpose because it's not really about the the what.

that the emotion is coming up for, it's more like activating, this is what it feels like when you're doing that new thing, right? Whatever the new thing is, I love that. So.

Kristi Newman (10:46)

The feelings

that we feel are our experience of life. It's as simple as that. So it's like how you feel is the most important thing because if you feel amazing, you had an amazing day. If you feel tired or sleepy or not well, you had a tired, sleepy day. So it's how you're feeling totally. So no, totally, I love that.

Amanda Kaufman (10:53)

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, so good. So like when you are coaching with somebody and just kind of maybe building on the feelings thing or feel free to take this in another direction, you know, what do you find is the most beneficial to your clients? Like, what do you find that you're that you're working on that is helping them the most?

Kristi Newman (11:27)

to connect back to who they truly are.

Amanda Kaufman (11:28)

What's that mean?

Kristi Newman (11:28)

inside

that little kid that that without all the world's crap that gets put on us right like you're just and horses are incredible teachers because they like you're like a look like i'm like a little kid i'm whatever 46 i see a horse in the field i'm like it's a horse it's so cute i've been doing this for 36 years like it's totally ridiculous but i feel like there's that little kid inside of all of us and that's really who we truly are and i think

People need to feel that again and feel what it's like to have that kind of not have all this stuff put on us and these expectations and these like To-do lists and all the stuff that the world pushes on us and I think that is what we really try to do here is connect back to that little person inside Who's excited to learn things and experience life?

Amanda Kaufman (12:19)

That's amazing.

so when somebody has gone through the work of discovering who their inner child is, their inner self, like what does that empower them or enable them to do?

Kristi Newman (12:29)

I think it allows them to show up in the world the way they want to. So we see life through the lenses. I think it's like putting glasses on. And so these glasses that you're wearing are like all the experiences that you've been through. So now you're looking through these glasses of your experiences and seeing the world, how it looks through your glasses. And I feel like connecting back to who you truly are inside, it's like you clean your glasses off. And so now you can see the world.

in a new light

that's more, I don't want to say authentic, but it's more true to you, like as if you were to take glasses off and your eyes were working amazing, you know? It's like you're just like cleaning everything or cleaning the windshield of your car and now you can see out it. So you can just have better clarity on where you want to go in your life, how you want to show up with relationships with people, how you want your business to grow, the goals you want to achieve. Like you just have so much more clarity.

when you can connect back to who you truly are without all the other stuff by cleaning that windshield off is how I would describe it.

Amanda Kaufman (13:33)

I love that.

love that. My little slogan is do what matters. And the center of that is so funny story on do what matters. So I've been saying do what matters, do what matters forever. And then it came time to like, Amanda, you have an opportunity to go to get a tattoo. And I was like, well, I guess I better get do what matters. So I get do what matters tattooed on my arm. I got my mom to write it in handwriting, didn't tell her it was going to be a tattoo. It was awesome. So I get it done.

And I just felt like I was always like pushing for what matters. And I moved into like this really like, it was very subconscious, super accidental, but it was just, I started to feel all this tension around making sure that I do what matters. Well, fast forward six months later.

I had a guest at a live event and she loves tattoos and she said to me, she's like, do you want to go get a tattoo together? And I said, sure. And so I'm standing there trying to decide on the design and I decided to tattoo on the other side. Let it go.

Right? And it's kind of like that, that windshield thing, you know, so many of us are driving down the road, you know, proverbial highway and whatever goals or aspirations that we have because we're, we think we're pretty clear about where we want to go, but there's bugs on the windscreen and there's all this dirt and accumulation and we don't even realize until it gets clear. Yeah.

Kristi Newman (14:57)

Yeah, a million

percent. And then what you have to have the confidence to do is once you clean the windshield and you realize you're not going in the right direction, change directions. Right? You're allowed to do that. What's that?

Amanda Kaufman (15:07)

Ooh, the hard part. So how do you help people through the hard part? The

fun part. How do you help people through the hard part and the fun part?

Kristi Newman (15:15)

Yeah, yeah, that is interesting. So a couple of things that I say to people all the time that I use is slow down to speed up. Because when you slow down and you just kind of take a breath and you build your foundation or whatever, even if we're training a horse, actually, same thing. If we slow down and really get clear on the foundational things like in life, training a horse, training a rider, training anybody in confidence, coaching anyone, get really clear on the foundation. You can actually build

Amanda Kaufman (15:23)

Mmm.

Kristi Newman (15:44)

whatever you're trying to build much quicker. So slow down to speed up. The other thing is I tell people to really trust their intuition. I heard this, I was at a live event and Bosema St. John, she's a chief marketing officer. She was Apple, Netflix, Uber. She was incredible and she was speaking. And she said, your intuition is always right. The outcome of what you think is going to happen because of that decision can be different. But your intuition...

Amanda Kaufman (16:12)

that is so freeing.

Kristi Newman (16:13)

is always right. So I tell people whatever your gut is saying to do, do that but don't hold any weight or feelings on the outcome of that decision because you're going to learn the things you were meant to learn to help you forward because of course everything is happening for you not to you. So that's what I tell people is you have to have the confidence to listen to that little voice inside of you.

Amanda Kaufman (16:26)

Hmm.

Kristi Newman (16:38)

but don't hold accountable that voice for what happens after you do that because that is not up to you. You had to listen to your voice. And it's really powerful, I thought, because it really gives you the confidence to listen to that voice and then let go of the outcome.

Amanda Kaufman (16:46)

That's so good. That's so good.

So funny story, us being here was very much the result of just an intuitive hit. I've had this podcast for years and I just got this feeling that...

I would like to reactivate it. And I'm sure I had like a suggestion, you know, I'm in coaching programs and things like that. But I get like only a thousand suggestions a month, you know, to filter through. And something that really just like spoke to me is I'm like, you know, you've had ideas and designs on that on that podcast. Like, why don't why don't you move to like an interview style and see what happens? And, you know, we wouldn't be here if I hadn't done that.

Kristi Newman (17:37)

It's perfectly perfect. And it's like perfect timing too, because I mean, I don't know about you, but I consume a lot of podcasts. Like I love it. If I'm doing something else, I am listening to podcasts. I'm working out, I'm listening to podcasts. Like I'm always listening to podcasts. And it's just such an amazing way for people to connect with you and connect with your knowledge. And it just helps so many people. And so I think it worked out perfectly perfect. Good job.

Amanda Kaufman (17:56)

Mm-hmm.

I think it did too and like I was really surprised because I remember like being very detached to the outcome of it. It's just like, I'm gonna follow my nose. I'm gonna do this thing. And I ended up getting such a rush of people who said, can I please be on your podcast? I really was not expecting that rush whatsoever.

that it ended up like we turned this whole thing into like a real machine that works pretty smoothly. And it's led to a whole bunch of other conversations that I otherwise would not be having. And I think it's a really, yeah, I think it's a really good example of that slow down to speed up and, you know, there really are, you know, just thinking from a business perspective, there's only about a bajillion ways you can succeed, you know?

Kristi Newman (18:51)

and you don't

even know what they are. And this is why I tell people don't get stuck up in the how you're gonna do something. Just take the next right step and know what you wanna feel at the end of it when you reach that goal. And then there's, I have so many examples of thousands of ways things have happened that I would have never dreamt of. Never dreamt of. And it's so cool because you just don't know the ways that things are gonna show up for you. So you just have to like, you did trust, take that step forward.

Amanda Kaufman (19:04)

Totally.

Totally. Totally.

Kristi Newman (19:20)

and then detach from the outcome and just be like, well, I did the things. I'm just gonna keep doing the things, you know, and just enjoy.

Amanda Kaufman (19:26)

I'm gonna do the

things, yeah. And what's your take too on developing excellence? Because you're clearly a very high performer. I think sometimes we can take kind of that intuitive hit piece and then possibly get a little bit casual at times with your preparation or with the follow through. So what's your take on making that distinction between I'm intuitively following the flow

you know, but also at the same time, in order to develop excellence, you have to have commitment, honor that struggle, you know, and really connect with that. And like, I know you're, you're a ridiculously high performer. If you're if you're being invited to the Olympics, you know, for your sport, that's that's intense. So you clearly know what it takes to stick with something even when it gets hard. So what would you say to that?

Kristi Newman (20:23)

Yeah, I feel like, so interestingly, don't like, I think when there's struggle that's in alignment with what you love to do, then it's okay. I think struggle that's not in alignment becomes stress. So I feel like that's a big distinction for people. I feel like you can't steer a car that's not moving, right? You can give a car.

Amanda Kaufman (20:32)

Mmm.

Mmm, okay.

Kristi Newman (20:48)

on flat ground in neutral and you can steer that steering wheel all you want is not gonna move. The car's not gonna move. There's no momentum, there's no energy behind it, there's nothing going to make it move unless you got a hill, you know, or someone gives you a shove. Like there's no, there's nothing there, the car will not move. So again, our analogy from the highway looking through your windshield, if you want the car to be able to be steered somewhere, you have to get it moving somehow.

Amanda Kaufman (21:00)

you

Mm-hmm.

Kristi Newman (21:14)

And you don't have to do anything, I don't think it has to be stressful or hard work, because I think innately humans are actually lazy and we actually don't want to do hard work. I feel like, but you do have to move. And so you have to start taking some steps and then the next right step will show up. And then the next right, but you have to trust that. And that is really hard for people to do in my...

younger years, I used to be the type of person who would like kick the door down to make something happen. And you know how many examples I have of me kicking the door down, proverbially, to get a result. And if I had just slowed down to speed up, I would have had the perfectly perfect situation like a week later, like perfectly lined up had I not kicked the door down. And then I couldn't take that opportunity that was perfectly perfect.

because I had pushed my way through a door that wasn't open. And so I invite people to trust themselves that it's okay to procrastinate. Like it's okay to sit a little bit and take action at a slower speed. Who cares? At least the car's moving. And then you can get some confidence. You can build up some momentum and then...

stuff's gonna start flying at you as you're driving and you're gonna be like, I can't deal with that because that's not in alignment. Like I gotta keep moving. So I think the main thing is get your car moving, your life, do something. Even if it's researching stuff or do like, you know, like you're talking about social media stuff, you know, do a post. Nobody wants to do that first post, you know, and videotape themselves and post it, but just do it because...

it builds that confidence and then you're ready for the next thing and you build that confidence. So I think, yeah, move, move somehow.

Amanda Kaufman (23:01)

Yeah,

move, get moving, right? I love this, this is so good. So, Kristy, what are three ways that a coach can make sure they don't suck?

Kristi Newman (23:10)

Amazing. Honestly, personal growth. You have to know, like, so if we're talking about lenses or like say you're in your car and we talk about the windshield and you see the world through your windshield. And so if your windshield is dirty, you're going to have a hard time seeing, like we talked about where you're going, right? The bugs are all over it. If you are trying to meet a client, a new student of yours, because you're a coach and

You can't see clearly through your own windshield. You can't see where that person is in relation to you because everything in our world that we experience is through that lens that we see it through. And so if your lens is dirty, good luck to you. Like you're not, you just won't be able to help people as well because you won't be able to see where they're actually at. And like we talked about at the beginning, you have to meet people where they're at. But if...

you have too much, too many bugs and dust on your windshield, you can't meet those people where they're truly at and then actually get them results, helping to ship, you know, connect the dots for them to get them to where they want to go. And I think that's the biggest mistake is as coaches, we want to help people, but you really have to turn that inside to really be able

Amanda Kaufman (24:33)

So good. So good. I love that. Anything else?

Kristi Newman (24:36)

Yeah.

No, I think that's the biggest thing because everything we're experiencing in our life is in relation to how we see the world. So when we meet that student or that potential client, we're seeing them in relation to us and in relation to where we are going or where we've been, right? Because a lot of times we're helping people that was us whatever number of years ago.

Amanda Kaufman (24:46)

So good, I love it.

Kristi Newman (25:04)

And so we have to be able to see them for who they are and where they are and what goals they truly want. And yeah, we really have to work on ourselves to be able to really help other people, I think.

Amanda Kaufman (25:16)

I love it. So Kristi, what is the best way for people to follow you?

Kristi Newman (25:20)

Yeah, so Instagram's probably a really great way. Christy.fs.newman on Instagram. Our farm is silverfox.equestrian.club on Instagram. I would say we actually went viral on Instagram with like 11 million views on a 15 second video. So if anybody wants to talk about social media sometimes, honestly, zero effort, 15 second video with 11 million views. So just do it.

Amanda Kaufman (25:48)

Just do it.

Kristi Newman (25:48)

So you can

go see my silly video that was viral on all platforms by accident.

Amanda Kaufman (25:53)

That's

amazing. We'll have to go check that out. All right, well, listener, thank you so much for joining us. And thank you, Christy, for being here.

Kristi Newman (25:55)

Yeah, it's fun.

Aw, thank you so much, Amanda. It was really fun.

Amanda Kaufman (26:04)

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